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Do you have low self-esteem?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Comparing<\/strong> \u2013 Do you always tend to compare yourself to others negatively and feel that you\u2019ll never measure up. Having low self-esteem can mean experiencing:
Self Loathing<\/strong> \u2013 you hate being yourself, punish yourself relentlessly for even small mistakes, see yourself as useless or worthless;
Perfectionism<\/strong> \u2013 nothing you do is ever good enough, there is never a sense of satisfaction at a job well done, cannot accept compliments;
Poor Body Image<\/strong> \u2013 always find something wrong with your body, compare your body unfavourably, feel self-conscious, self neglect;
Too Sensitive<\/strong> \u2013 any criticism feels like a dangerous attack, short-tempered and touchy with co-workers, always worried about what others think;
Eager to Please<\/strong> \u2013 you\u2019ll do anything for approval, always put others first, it feels dangerous to say \u201cno\u201d, end up feeling like a doormat;
Need to Shop<\/strong> \u2013 addicted to material possessions, must have the best even when you don\u2019t need it, always feel that other people have more than you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019re struggling with low self-esteem counselling can help you develop a sense of self-worth that doesn\u2019t depend on comparing yourself to others. Make an appointment to see me in my central London consulting room.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What is low self-esteem?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

To have healthy self-esteem does not mean being full of yourself; it means having a realistic assessment of your strengths and weaknesses and still being able to like yourself for who you are. Having low self-esteem is having a negative attitude towards yourself, so that even when you do something well, you find a way to rubbish it. Even people who seem outwardly successful can suffer from low self-esteem.
When a child has parents (or guardians) who values her and gives her positive affirmation, irrespective of achievements, a sense of positive self-esteem gradually builds up inside until it doesn\u2019t depend on others to maintain it. When parents are inconsistent or consistently negative, the child\u2019s sense of self-esteem never becomes independent and is most often negative.
Low self-esteem can also be brought on by other traumatic events such as a divorce, redundancy, racial or sexual abuse, bullying, and other experiences where you are made to feel powerless.
There are some simple techniques that can help you to bolster your self-esteem; see some of the articles listed below in \u201cFurther Reading\u201d. However, while self-affirmation techniques may get you out of a slump, counselling or psychotherapy will help you get to the root of your self-esteem issues.
If you\u2019re struggling with low self-esteem counselling can help you develop a sense of self-worth that doesn\u2019t depend on comparing yourself to others. Make an appointment to see me in my central London consulting room.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How psychotherapy helps with low self-esteem<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

In counselling we\u2019ll explore the patterns and beliefs (often unconscious) which undermine your self-esteem. The impartial perspective of a counselor will help you to see where your view of yourself is not based on reality but on your own negative assumptions. We\u2019ll consider your past life, including your childhood to see where negative self evaluation might have taken root and have been reinforced; this will lead on to considering new ways of seeing yourself in relation to others.
If you feel counselling could help you contact me to make an appointment to discuss your needs
Do you have other questions about counselling?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Further reading about low self-esteem<\/h2>\n\n\n\n